Sunday will be my daughter’s birthday. It’s the second one we’ll spend without her Mom. While I was thinking about a ways to celebrate, I remembered many other birthdays. The year we decorated her room with everything yellow and white. The traditional ones at Chicago’s Ron of Japan. Years in New York at places like the Hard Rock Café, and Patsy’s. Her 13th at Windows on the World during a thunder storm. Her sweet 16 trip to Aruba. Suddenly, so many images of previous celebrations rushed into my mind. I realized that we were blessed to have had all those moments together. Not just birthdays, but holidays, and other gatherings as well. Maybe we didn’t appreciate this until now when it’s no longer the way it used to be. Yet, what if, we never had those good times, those tender moments, and shared experiences together. What if, we never had the laughter and tears, successes and failures to share? Then, we would not have wonderful memories to give us comfort when a beloved member of our family is no longer with us. I think this birthday celebration should include recalling those memories. Some laughter, and probably some tears in honor of our missing matriarch. What if, she had never been ours to share?
With love, to our daughter on her birthday.
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